Sex is as varied as we are - and sometimes all it takes is a small change to turn good sex into unforgettable sex.
Trying out new positions does not mean that something is "wrong" - on the contrary: it shows curiosity, a desire for new things and the need to get to know yourself and your own needs (again) better.
Whether gentle and sensual, classic and familiar or wild and passionate - every mood, every physicality and every type of closeness has its own highlights when it comes to sex positions.
And the best thing is: there is no one perfect position.
It's all about what you enjoy together, what's fun and what does you good.
In this article, we present the best sex positions for every desire - from gentle cuddling to wild adventures.
We'll also give you tips on how you can try out new positions in a relaxed way, what you should look out for and why communication is the real game changer.
Ready for a little inspiration?
Overview:
- Gentle & sensual sex positions - when closeness takes centre stage
- Classic & popular sex positions - the evergreens
- Wild & intense sex positions - for passionate moments
- Tips for variety & communication - rediscover desire
- SMASH ME Conclusion: Lust knows many paths - and you don't have to go any of them alone
Gentle & sensual sex positions - when closeness takes centre stage
Sometimes it's not the wild ecstasy that makes us really happy - it's the but the quiet, intense moments full of closeness and tenderness.
Gentle sex positions are perfect for focussing on touch, eye contact and feeling the other person's body.
It's not about top acrobatic performances - but about intimacy, warmth and genuine togetherness.
Here are a few positions that are particularly suitable for slow, sensitive pleasure:
Spooning
- What is that? You lie sideways behind each other, your partner snuggles up close to your back.
- Why do we love it? Lots of physical contact, plenty of room for caresses, kisses and whispered words - perfect for relaxed, intimate sex.
Missionary position (rethought)
- What is that? Yes, missionary is a classic - but with small variations (e.g. wrapping your legs around your body, maintaining intense eye contact) it gets really intense.
- Why do we love it? Pure closeness, perfect coordination and one of the best positions for feeling emotions and pleasure at the same time.
Seated positions (e.g. lotus)
- What is that? Both sit opposite each other, often on their partner's lap, legs entwined.
- Why do we love it? Ideal for gentle movements, deep kisses and consciously feeling every moment. Perfect for slow sex.
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Slowness is the secret here. Less is sometimes more - and especially in gentle moments, it's not about speed or pressure, but about consciously noticing your skin, breath and heartbeat.
Classic & popular sex positions - the evergreens
Some sex positions are simply timeless favourites - because they work, because they are familiar, and because they offer an infinite number of variations.
Classic sex positions give you confidence, can be adapted to suit your mood and are often the perfect basis for introducing little new impulses.
Here are our favourite classics that always work - whether for the first time or after ten years of dating:
Missionary - classic with upgrade
- What is that? The person being penetrated is lying on their back - the other person is lying on top of them.
- Why do we love it? Extremely flexible: by changing leg positions, slightly lifting the hips or making small changes to the movement, the movement becomes more intense, more playful or deeper. Also perfect for intimate eye contact.
Cowgirl – Pleasure in your own hands
- What is that? The receiving person sits up - either upright or leaning slightly forwards.
- Why do we love it? You determine the tempo, depth and rhythm of movement. Ideal for enjoying control and letting yourself go at the same time.
Doggy style - wild, deep and versatile
- What is that? The receiving person is on all fours, the penetrating person is kneeling or standing behind them.
- Why do we love it? Intensive penetration angle, many variations possible (e.g. on the bed, on the floor, on furniture). Wild or slow - anything goes.
69 - Pleasure for both
- What is that? Oral stimulation - both partners satisfy each other at the same time.
- Why do we love it? Lots of closeness, lots of passion - one of the most popular "different sex positions" for oral pleasure.
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Classic sex positions are perfect for incorporating new elements: Toys, handcuffs, light domination games or slow sex.
A small change is often enough to turn a familiar position into a new adventure!
Wild & intense sex positions - for passionate moments
Sometimes you just need a little more: More speed, more energy, more passion.
Wild sex positions bring a little oomph into the bedroom - and let you really live out your lust on a physical level. It's all about devotion, power and intense sensations.
Our favourites for wild adventures:
Standing variants
- What is that? Both are standing, one person can lean on a wall, for example.
- Why do we love it? Pure physical closeness, quick changes from slow to wild possible, perfect for spontaneous pleasure.
Doggy style (in the wild version)
- What is that? Already mentioned in the classics - but here with more power, faster rhythm and deeper strokes.
- Why do we love it? Intense stimulation, lots of variations - e.g. with a grip on the hips or incorporating light dominance games.
At the edge of the bed
- What is that? One person is lying or sitting on the edge of the bed, the other is standing in front of it.
- Why do we love it? Ideal for deep penetration, intense eye contact and a firm hold for even more passionate sex.
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The wilder the sex, the more important: communication!
Particularly with more intense movements or new positions, it's worth paying attention to non-verbal signals - a grip on the hand, a look, a smile can say more than a thousand words.
Tips for variety & communication - rediscover desire
Trying out new positions sounds exciting - and sometimes a bit challenging.
Especially when insecurities or inhibitions arise, communication is the key to a relaxed and pleasurable experience.
Here are a few simple tips on how you can playfully provide more variety:
1. Talk about your desire - before trying it out
A quick chat about what you fancy or what excites you can work wonders.
Maybe there's a position that one of you has wanted to try for a long time - or you discover something new together.
2. Take the pressure off
Sex positions are not an Olympic discipline.
It's not about being particularly acrobatic or doing 'everything right'. If something is uncomfortable or doesn't work - laugh about it and try something else. Lust is not a checklist.
3. Tests small changes
Sometimes it doesn't need a completely new position, but just a small change: a different tempo, new hand positions, additional stimulation. In this way, the familiar framework is retained and yet new tension is created.
4. Also speak during this time
Short questions such as "Do you like this?" or "Do you like it faster/slower?" maintain the connection and make it easier to engage with each other.
Non-verbal signs such as a smile, a sigh or a hand gesture can also say a lot.
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Trying out new things together can be incredibly bonding - if the focus is on pleasure, relaxation and mutual respect.
SMASH ME Conclusion: Lust knows many paths - and you don't have to go any of them alone
Sex is alive, diverse and full of possibilities.
Whether gentle, classic, wild or playful - every sex position is an invitation to experience your body, your desire and your connection to your partner in a new way.
It's not about finding the "best" or "perfect" position.
It's about keeping an open mind, staying curious - and finding ways together that feel good.
Sometimes even a small change of position brings new energy into play.
Sometimes it's about slowing down, listening more carefully and savouring more consciously.
We hope you've been able to gather inspiration here, discover new ideas and maybe even feel like bringing a little more adventure into the bedroom.
Because in the end, only one thing counts:
Sex should always be what makes you both feel good - regardless of the position.
Thank you for reading our guide to the best sex positions for every desire!
We hope you were able to gather new inspiration, understand your own body even better - and maybe even get in the mood for a little adventure.
Stay curious, stay open - and keep discovering new ways to celebrate your lust!
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